All,
It comes to me to let everyone know that Kindra's health has taken a drastic dip over the last few weeks and more so over the last few days. We have spent what time we have had together sharing each others love, close comforts and talking about what is to come. Both Kindra and I have talked about her death and the final stages of her life. Unfortunately we are now at that point. She is dying.
This is not an easy message to share and equally hard to hear. It has taken me many hours to put this into writing.
I can not predict the time frame that she has left. It could be any day or in a week. I know that a lot of you wish to be there for her and to see her, but it is her wish that during this remaining time that she spend it privately with her family. This too, I know is hard to hear for some of you.
Please understand that she would like people to continue to leave comments for her so that her and I can read them together. She also wishes for people to remember her in each of your own unique ways.
Know that her heart is still beating strong with the love she has for each of you and when the time comes for that heart to stop beating that she take all that love with her as we keep that love alive for her here.
We both love all of you!!!
Mark and Kindra
Hello family and friends, I created this site to help inform all of those who have shown such amazing support and love to Mark and I along the way. This is my cancer journey...
21 comments:
Kindra,
You have touched my life in so many ways and will forever remain happy in my heart. I am blessed to know you and treasure all of our memories together. You are a gem and a true admiration! I love you forever. XoXoXo, Angela
Kindra,
If ever a person lived life to its fullest and tastest all of its joys, it is you. You bring warmth and laughter to each person you meet. I remember when we first met not really believing anyone could be as genuinely nice and friendly as you were. I quickly saw just how true and genuine you were and knew I would have a forever friend. I will cherish and give thanks for every moment we have spent together. You are loved beyond words by so many and I know you know that fact. But I can't help but saying again how much I love you. Te amo mi amiga. Erin
Kindra,
I'm not super good with words but want you to know how much you have touched Dustin and myself over the years. Both moving to Chicago was the blessing of my life and weather it was late nights out, cubs/bears games or Thanksgiving in Indy (Julia Roberts/Erin Brockovich, remember that-hee-hee) we cherish the time we had with you. Even in your 30 years you have done and seen more than most and have lived your life to the fullest. You are the most positive amazing person I've ever met and at this point I just want you to be in peace. I'm so glad I was able to spend that week with you. We love you so much, Amy, Dustin and Cole
Kiiiiinnnnndra!
I remember meeting you in the 6th grade at the school cafeteria....who was this blonde cutie bouncing around with energy? (I think at that time you might have gone by "Kiki"?) I'm so happy that 19 years later we are still friends.
I remember slumber parties at my house, driving in your red (fiesta?) to "I'm just a girl" downtown, and possible events including flour, eggs and homes and cars.
You are a positive, kind-hearted person and I will always think of you as such. Not a dark cloud, always sunshine when people are around you Kindra.
I LOVE you and hope you find comfort. Thank you for being my friend and teaching me to laugh and look at the bright side of life.
Love always,
Kara
Kindra,
Sarah & I want you to know how much we love you and are so thankful that you have touched our lives. We constantly think of you both and were comforted to hear from AJ yesterday that you are at peace. We thank you for your friendship and love and are blessed that you have touched our lives and all of our families lives. Your love will live forever in our hearts.
We love you!
Sarah & Jonny
Dear Kindra,
We love you very much. It is such a joy to witness the beautiful woman you have become from the bouncy child next door who would run over screaming, "Johnny, swing me!!!" You leave an indelible hand print on our hearts (and basement walls). God keep and comfort you, Mark, Jim, Susan, Tara, and Ian.
Love, Mary Jo, John, Will, Charlie, and Samantha
Kins,
I love you so very much. To me, (and I'm certain to everyone who has had the pleasure of knowing you) you will always represent sunshine, love and all that is good in the world. You are an amazing friend and I am so grateful for the 12 1/2 years of memories I have with you. Golf classes, Gamma Phi, Trips together, our talks, your back massages, your hugs, clowning around together...and so many more...they are forever engraved in my heart and memories. You have truly lived life to the fullest and have demonstrated to all of us that life's main purpose is to love and be loved. You are so loved. I am sending you the biggest hug that you can imagine...I hope you can feel it.
I love you Kindra.
Your friend forever and ever and ever, Marisa
Mark,
I cannot even begin to imagine the strength and courage a person needs to have in your position. You are an example to all of us on how to love, nuture and care for a spouse. Thank you so much for loving Kindra the way you do. I send you all of my strength and courage. Please do me a favor and hold Kindra's face in between your hands and give a her a big kiss on the forehead and tell her it's from me.
All my love,
Marisa
Sabado Senorita,
How lucky are we to know you...your positive attitude, infectious sense of fun and loving spirit are truly one of a kind. We have more fond memories than we can count of our fun times together...lobster pots boiling over, champagne instead of tea at the Drake, putting on pajamas late night at parties, working magic with babies(Ben didn't sleep for just anyone)...the list could go on and on. We are blessed to be a part of your life. We love you so much.
Spence, Katie & Ben
Kindra-
I feel so blessed to have met you. I will forever cherish the memories of good times we've shared.
We are all better people for having had you in our lives. While your journey has been cut short, your impact is from over. Your positive outlook on life and desire to help others is an inspiration for us all.
You are a remarkable person with a spirit that will continue to shine forever.
Much Love-
Courtney, Matt and Emma
Kindra,
You have been a part of my life for so long and you will stay with me, in my heart, forever. You are an amazing friend; you care, and give, and bring joy, happiness and laughter to everyone around you. I am so lucky to have gotten so much of the Kindra sunshine and I promise to pass it on.
I will do everything I can to make Human Tribe Project a success to ensure that something positive comes from your struggle. Your legacy of positivity and helping others will continue.
Thank you for becoming my friend, and stayng my friend for so long. Thank you for all of the experiences we've shared and the memories we've made. Thank you for all of the happy days. Thank you for loving me and making my life so full.
I'm sending you the biggest hug ever!
Love,
Jaclyn (and Ryan)
Dearest Kindra,
You truly are one of the most amazing people that has come into my life. You have always been there for all of your friends and family, even in this toughest battle over the past year. Your inner and outer beauty shines and has ever since the first day I met you. You have taught me to always keep a positive outlook on things, and to live each day to the fullest. Please know how amazing you are, and how loved you always will be.
Mark, I admire you for your strength during this time and want you to know how many people love you.
I am thinking of you both and sending my love.
Molly
I love you.
-Maria
Kindra, Kiki, Kins, Buchanan, etc,
Over the years you’ve had many nicknames but what’s been consistent is what an amazing friend you’ve been.
When we first met in middle school you were so cute – full of life and laughs. I remember thinking I hit the friend jackpot! Over the last 20 years we’ve shared soooo much – birthdays (the youngins), breakups (guys can be such jerks sometimes), trying to escape the WL police (did your parents ever forgive you for the party?), bachelorette parties and many adventures from Kah-Nee-Ta as pee-wees to Europe as blossoming adults.
It was such a wonderful feeling having you just a few hours away in college and every time I visited you or you visited me, it made Arizona feel a little more like home. And then there was Europe (“mind the gap”, “I can’t bloody help you” and “you sound like Buffy the Vampire Slayer”)! That is when I finally had to ask myself, how is it humanly possible for someone to have brains, beauty, a huge heart, a sense of humor, athleticism, drive and an impeccable sense of direction even in a foreign country?!
I could go on and on about all the great memories we share, but I’ll try to sum it up. You are such an amazing person and have touched me in so many positive ways. I adore you and I am a better person for knowing you. My heart is overflowing with love for you right now and you will forever be in my heart and memories.
I am so happy you are at peace.
Mark,
Thank you for taking such great care of our dear friend. We adore you too!
Love, love, love!
Jami (and Jim)
Kindra ~
Thank you for coming into our lives and sharing your warmth, compassion, laughter, and genuine friendship with us. You have always reminded us what it means to truly live life to its fullest. (Come on...neither of us even owned a passport until your wedding!) :) We are both better people for knowing you and are thankful to have made many wonderful memories with you. The one that stands out most to me right now is our sled riding adventure at MLK last year. While I can't remember exactly what we were yelling(?), I remember aching with laughter as we crawled back up the hill over and over again like children. I will never forget that feeling.
Mark ~ We love you, admire you, and send you our strength. Please give Kins two bear hugs - one from each of us. (Lambeau sends a spin.)
We will hold you in our hearts forever, Kins, and we promise to carry on what we have learned from you.
Much love & peace to you, my friend,
Amanda & Darrin
Kindra,
I think you were put on this earth to inspire others to be better. Your positive and genuinely kind spirit is something I will never forget and it will live with me forever. All of my fondest (and FUNEST) college memories include you and I will hold those so close to my heart forever.
You taught us all so many valuable lessons - to ALWAYS look at the bright side, to live life to its fullest, to treat everyone with love and respect and the list goes on and on.
To you and Mark,
You two are a magical couple. In just the few times we all hung out together, your love for each other is contagious. You both know how to have FUN and how to laugh - how important those two things are in a marriage. I have such a sweet picture in my head of Kinds smiling with pure love and joy as she watched Mark dance his buns off at Mari's wedding. :)
Every memory of you, Kins, is a happy one. I love you and wish you peace and comfort.
love,
hil
kindra and Mark-
My heart is heavy as I write to you. I have walked in your shoes Mark and know how terribly difficult and hard this time is for you. You are a brave and wonderful husband. Kindra deserves only the best and we all know she does have the best......memories are so many, but the times we went on our many Princess cruises together come to mind as some of the best times together as families.
We always knew when we disembarked that your father would have found the cheapest tour guide for our families. We never were sure of where they may be taking us or their sobriety, but we always knew they were the cheapest and we had a great time! My favorite trip together was celebrating the turn on the century 2000. What fun we had!!!
I always knew you would be a track star, from the moment I let you down when I took you three girls shopping at M&F and you were off and running.....pulling tags off all of the hanging clothing. Then there was the time I went in the ditch on the way to a National Guard Christmas party in Lake Oswego and Tarra told us it was OK, she would get us out..... Those were the best days of our lives. I am so thankful I had the opportunity to be a part of the Buchanan girl's lives. You gave me so much!!!
Much love, Janis
Kindra and Mark -- It is with a heavy heart that I write this. But I wanted to leave a comment to hopefully buoy your spirits.
Kindra, I will always think of you with a smile on your face. And I will always think of you, Marnie, Madison and Luna when I think about living at 2315. Especially about you taking Luna out on her leash in the backyard. (I am sure you hold a special place in your heart for Pierre, too!)
You have been such an incredible friend to Marnie and I am glad we got to spend time together doing bridesmaid things this past year. You made her bachelorette weekend so much fun, but then again, you are a professional bachelorette-party-attender, so I expected nothing less!
Mark -- Your care for Kindra this past year has been amazing. You have given me much to think about and what it means to love someone through good times and bad, sickness and health. I am sure this is hard, but you will always have memories of all the good times you shared.
Please know we are thinking about you both.
Amy, Josh, Jack and Emmie
Dear Sweet Kindra,
It is amazing to read about how many lives you have truly touched and I know you know there are many people that love you. I am one more who has been touched by your "sunshine." But I hope you also know that there is a God who loves you, too. Please know that we are praying for you. We are praying that God will deliver you from your pain and give you the peace that only He can.
Mark - You are living a perfect example of the Bible verse that Kindra quoted at Jaclyn's wedding; "love hopes all things, believes all things, bears all things and endures all things." (I Cor 13:4) Thank you for being there, for enduring, for bearing a situation we probably don't even imagine when we hear the phrase "all things." The Bible goes on to say that love is the greatest gift we can give or receive.
Kindra, thank you for showering all of us with yours; we pray that you are receiving and feeling all of ours, and may it somehow bring you peace and joy in this time of suffering.
We love you and send you so many kisses and hugs.
Danielle Long - and Matt, Camryn and Kate too
From the Dalgaards:
You were part of our life when we all were younger. You will always be a happy running, blonde blur rushing past us…a happy memory.
We feel for you all deeply and our thoughts are with you…
Janet, Harry, Katie, and Harry3
Kindra inspires me..........
I read the article in the paper about her and I was instantly drawn to her story. I had to know more. Reading her story was an intense and awe inspiring experience. Although I did not know Kindra, or anyone she loved, I feel like I too have lost something. All people are intertwined and we dont realize this fact until it is too late to help anyone. I for one have realized that everyone in this world good, or evil, rich, or poor deserve to live their lives to the fullest. Kindra probably did not want to go so early, but she lived life while she still could. I want to be a doctor, for you Kindra.
I love you all.
Thank you.
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